Megan Byrd

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What Twelve Years of Marriage Looks Like

This Sunday Adam and I will celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary! Twelve years of life in Atlanta. I thought it would be fun to share some of the highlights of our marriage experience.

Our married life by the numbers:

  • 1 cat
  • 2 kids
  • 3 addresses
  • 4 trips out of the country
  • 1 Thanksgiving in Las Vegas
  • 2 Peachtree Road Races (3 for Adam)
  • 4 company cars
  • 6 (of 24) Thanksgivings or Christmases at our house
  • 9 college football games
  • 1 ALTA City Championship (2 for Adam)
  • 19 bag tags (between us)
  • 1 helicopter ride over Sedona
  • 2 Christmas fun runs in Boise
  • 4 nieces and nephews (technically one was born two months before our wedding)
  • 8 years of parenthood
  • 9 trips to the beach
  • 14 plane trips to Boise
  • Numerous trips to North Carolina
  • 12 years of love, laughter, and adventure with many more to come!

If you made your own list of married-life events, what would be some of your highlights?

Love Does: Regard Others’ Interests

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death – even death on a cross! ~Philippians 2:5-8

As Christians, we are to follow Christ’s example and seek to serve those around us for God’s glory. One of the ways we do that is to defer our preferences to others for the sake of showing them Christ’s love. Saying yes to helping others when we can, especially when it may inconvenience us in small or big ways, is an excellent way of showing love. Valuing others’ opinions and desires also demonstrates love and helps us to grow in humility.

“I have the right to do anything,” you say – but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything,” – but not everything is good. No one should seek their good but the good of others. ~1 Corinthians 10:23-24

At the end of August my husband mentioned trying Whole30, “a short-term nutrition reset”. I had been interested in doing it for a while to try to discover whether food affected my eczema but had never mentioned it to him for two reasons: 1) There’s no way I could do it without Adam’s help, and 2) I didn’t think he would be interested because he enjoys food so much.

So when he brought it up I said that I was in if he was.  We talked about it for a few days and then tried to figure out a 30-day window to tackle it. My husband printed out the basic rules and allowed food list and I borrowed and read the book to help us wrap our heads around what we were getting ourselves into.

If you know me, then you know that once I commit to something, I will see it through. So my husband knew that agreeing to this with me meant being all in, following the rules, and sticking it out for the full 30 days. And we did it! To read about our Whole30 experience, click here.

This was an act of love on my husband’s part and required personal sacrifice and a deferral of his own preferences. I greatly appreciate his willingness to tackle it with me. The experience caused me to feel closer to him and greatly loved and valued by him.

 

Has someone showed their love for you by deferring to your judgment or agreeing to an activity that you wanted to do? Have you deferred your preferences to someone else for the sake of love? Please share your experience!

My Whole30 Adventure

Earlier this fall, my husband brought up the idea of doing the Whole30 together. Having been interested in trying it to see if food affects my eczema I jumped right on board. So his one offhand comment essentially became a commitment to go for it together.

We wanted to have a Labor Day Weekend party complete with tasty food so we decided to start our thirty days on September 10th. I asked a friend about her experience with it and she loaned me her books and a fine strainer (for making clarified butter) for our experience, including a spreadsheet of recipes she used and a live demonstration of how to make clarified butter.

I was nervous about staying away from sugar, dairy, grains, gluten, and legumes for a whole month but visited several grocery stores and scoured ingredient labels a week or so ahead of our start date in search of compliant food. We were used to cooking most of our dinners at home so that part would not be new for us. Not having oatmeal for breakfast or sandwiches at lunch were going to change my routine some.

My husband, however, had more hurdles to tackle such as making time for breakfast each day and either carrying in lunch to the office or finding restaurants with compliant foods each weekday. He had many more challenges due to his work and having to travel out of town several times during our Whole30. I’m very proud of him for staying compliant under such circumstances.

We made it through but definitely had struggles. We dealt with headaches and hunger while our bodies adjusted (apparently the hunger never went away for Adam). We had days we wanted to quit. Once we made it through day 15 (halfway!), it seemed a lot more manageable (until the dreaded day 21). Being part of the Whole30 Facebook group was very helpful for encouragement, advice, and recipe inspiration.

We survived and both lost some weight (not the main point of Whole30 but a pleasant side effect). I noticed a flatter stomach. I had a small pooch under my belly button that I just assumed would always be there but it disappeared at the end of our thirty days (possibly even reducing further during the 10-day reintroduction period I completed afterward).

I ate fairly healthy before our experiment, but I learned a lot more about food, what I really craved, and what I could live without. For instance, I have significantly decreased my dairy intake because I think it affects my eczema and I do just fine without it. I have also reduced my consumption of bread and packaged products because I don’t crave them.

I learned that I like eating chicken salad on a bed of arugula or other greens in place of bread. I crave more vegetables now. I enjoyed the homemade tomato sauce and turkey meatball recipes I made. I gained more kitchen skills (mayonnaise and clarified butter) and confidence.

After my initial few days of sugar withdrawal, I didn’t have too many sugar cravings. The more helpful thing Whole30 did was cut out my near-daily evening treat habit I used to have.

I do feel like my thoughts about food and eating have changed some. Having experienced some appealing results I have been reluctant to completely jump ship, though not quite hard-core enough to stay 100% Whole30. I think it was a worthwhile experiment.

 

Have you ever done Whole30 or something similar? What was your experience like? If you haven’t done it, have you considered it? What would keep you from attempting it?

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