In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death – even death on a cross! ~Philippians 2:5-8
As Christians, we are to follow Christ’s example and seek to serve those around us for God’s glory. One of the ways we do that is to defer our preferences to others for the sake of showing them Christ’s love. Saying yes to helping others when we can, especially when it may inconvenience us in small or big ways, is an excellent way of showing love. Valuing others’ opinions and desires also demonstrates love and helps us to grow in humility.
“I have the right to do anything,” you say – but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything,” – but not everything is good. No one should seek their good but the good of others. ~1 Corinthians 10:23-24
At the end of August my husband mentioned trying Whole30, “a short-term nutrition reset”. I had been interested in doing it for a while to try to discover whether food affected my eczema but had never mentioned it to him for two reasons: 1) There’s no way I could do it without Adam’s help, and 2) I didn’t think he would be interested because he enjoys food so much.
So when he brought it up I said that I was in if he was. We talked about it for a few days and then tried to figure out a 30-day window to tackle it. My husband printed out the basic rules and allowed food list and I borrowed and read the book to help us wrap our heads around what we were getting ourselves into.
If you know me, then you know that once I commit to something, I will see it through. So my husband knew that agreeing to this with me meant being all in, following the rules, and sticking it out for the full 30 days. And we did it! To read about our Whole30 experience, click here.
This was an act of love on my husband’s part and required personal sacrifice and a deferral of his own preferences. I greatly appreciate his willingness to tackle it with me. The experience caused me to feel closer to him and greatly loved and valued by him.
Has someone showed their love for you by deferring to your judgment or agreeing to an activity that you wanted to do? Have you deferred your preferences to someone else for the sake of love? Please share your experience!