I am participating in a blog link up on the last Friday of each month where bloggers share four things from the month that fit into each of the following categories:
- Something Loved
- Something Said
- Something Learned
- Something Read
This has been a fun experience thus far! I am excited to continue to ponder these four things each month and see what I find! I’d love it if you’d join me and link up over at HeatherGerwing.com. You can also check out my Somethings from January, February, and March.
April’s Four Somethings:
Something Loved
Growing up, my family often worked on puzzles during the holidays. I have continued to enjoy them as an adult and complete one or two each year. I have noticed that my son also enjoys working on puzzles. We have a number of small puzzles that are 12 to 48 pieces and he is able to complete them without assistance. Our library loans out puzzles so we picked one out together and brought it home to work on. We have since checked out several more and have turned the dining room into our puzzle room. I love that my son and I now have a mutual passion to enjoy and develop together.
Something Said
I’ve really seen and experienced that change is not something that happens in a straight line, you know from point A to point B. Especially if you’re a perfectionist like me you think, “Oh, I’m going to make this change. I’m going to go through the five steps and then I’ll be at point B and nice and happy.” The reality is, that is not real life and the way that change more often looks is if you picture a slinky or a spiral. This is a theory of change that is out there in psychology. It’s like we’re going along that slinky and revisiting the same issues again and again and that’s normal. But, if you think of a slinky, it stretches out and you’re always revisiting those issues from a little bit different place, a little bit different perspective, and you’ve added life experience, you’ve had added perspective. So I would encourage anybody who’s revisiting a struggle you’ve had in the past not to say “Oh, I’m back at square one” because everybody revisits struggles. That’s normal. It’s just about understanding that we’re works in progress and when we revisit a struggle we can ask ourselves, “What have I learned about dealing with this struggle and how can I more effectively face it this time than I have in the past?”
This was a quote from Dr. Angela Schaffer who was a guest on one of my new favorite podcasts Woven with Rebecca Peet and Rebecca Cochran (Episode 3: The Doctor Is In). I really appreciated the analogy of a slinky. I do feel frustrated when I feel like I am revisiting the same struggle multiple times. However, I can see the truth that perspective and experience can make a difference in how we handle it each time we face it if we are willing to learn from previous encounters.
Something Learned
I have learned that God is asking me to trust him in this season of life. I have a tendency to want to be in control and to have everything planned out and prepared. However, I also want to live out the purposes God has for me and those often require flexibility and a willingness to surrender my plans for something better. Not knowing what is coming or having an agenda makes me feel insecure. I am trying to be open to whatever God wants to do and trust in his plans and purposes, even when that means not having an answer to what’s next for me.
Something Read
I read a great book for parents wanting to help themselves and their children grow in generosity toward others. Raising World Changers in a Changing World by Kristen Welch reminds us of how privileged and resourced we are living in America and how different people in many other parts of the world live. It asks the question, What if we have been so blessed in order that we might be a blessing to others? I really want my kids to be loving and compassionate people and being generous to others is both a way to grow in compassion and also the result of that growth. The book has questions to discuss as a family to encourage us to think about what we have and how we can use it to show God’s love to others.
Thanks for the Woven shout out, girl!!! 🙌🙌🙌 Great post!
Great podcast! 🙂
I enjoyed reading your 4 somethings. My family also loved puzzles. Now we are sharing that love with our grandsons. It is so much fun to spend an hour putting together puzzles with the little ones. Also enjoyed reading the quote for your “Something said”. How many times have I expected change to happen faster and in a more linear fashion? I should know by now that it takes time and goes in starts and stops. Thanks for the reminder!
Thanks for reading! Thinking about change as a spiral blew my mind and has helped me so much.
Adding that book to my list NOW! Sounds great! Thanks for linking up!
Thanks for hosting! I enjoy sitting down each month and figuring out what fits into each category.
I enjoyed Raising World Changers too. It’s like the parenting version of David Platt’s Radical. I was reminded that the world is bigger than what I see in front of me and that we are the plan to reach them–there is no plan B. I enjoy reading these each month!
Radical is on my to-read shelf. It’s nice to have a better idea of what that one is about.
Control freak here! Surrendering to God is such a hard thing. Worth it, but so difficult!