This Saturday I will celebrate my 36th birthday. It’s been eighteen years since I graduated from high school, which means 18 years since I have lived in the same state (yes, state) as my family. Half of my life (and from here on out more than half) has now been lived away from my parents and brother. That’s a little sad to think about but that’s how it’s supposed to go, I suppose. Maybe not living in different time zones, but at least not under the same roof anymore. In honor of this milestone, I thought back on the past eighteen years and came up with a few things I’ve learned since moving out.
Eighteen Lessons Learned Since Leaving the Nest
1.Chain bike locks do not prevent theft on college campuses.
2.Moldy bagels eaten in the dark to prevent waking your roommate will not make you sick, though it will be a revolting memory every time you think about it.
3.I am definitely not a morning person, more of a mid-morning person. Ask my 8:00 am college English professor or super-early-bird husband. Zzzzzz.
4.Not all roommates are created equal. And not all friends make great roommates (but some do).
5.Owning a TV is not a necessity in my life.
6.I can trust God to lead me to the job I need when I need it.
7.The transition from living two states away from your fiancé to sharing a two-bedroom apartment with your husband in a state where you know no one and have no job may be a little bumpy.
8.Cooking is a skill that can be greatly improved with practice.
9.Don’t ignore little problems. Some of them turn into big problems.
10.It’s okay to try and fail. It’s usually better than never trying and living with “what if.”
11.Be true to yourself. Pleasing everyone will never happen and trying to will exhaust you.
12.Pets can make great companions but they are a lot of work and can wreak havoc on your house and furniture.
13.Good, consistent communication is key to any successful and healthy relationship.
14.It’s okay to need help and ask for it. Many people love being able to help and support others.
15.Car accidents are scary no matter how minor or who is at fault.
16.Wait to have your carpets professionally cleaned until your children are completely toilet trained.
17.Don’t stop making new friends. You never know who will become the strong support you need in difficult times.
18.Being a mom is challenging but worthwhile work.
I would love to hear what you’ve learned since leaving home. Have you had any of the same lessons I have?